Hi Coach - You Were the First Person I Ever Shared This With
Each Reclaim Student is assigned a personal Coach who can answer questions, provide accountability and offer support. (A Coach is not trained for nor do they provide professional counseling or therapy.) This is a note written by a Reclaim Student to their Coach:
Just wanted to let you know that I am doing very well. I have had no setbacks to date and I have been extremely thankful to God for the power to which Reclaim as provided me against my addiction. I find I am using the tools provided to me here in all aspects of my life, not just with regard to overcoming sexual addiction, but at work, with my family and in every aspect of my life.
Just the other day when I was faced with being away from my wife and children again (a huge trigger), I was hit with thoughts that would have normally sent me into a cycle of avoidance and eventually a setback and as I was driving I started to perform my Gratitude breathing, Faced it and said my script, "I don't have to do this" and replaced it with the thought of the deep love I have for my Wife and Connected to our Lord and Saviour with thanksgiving and praise. The process has become so easy to do that I can only say God is good and has blessed me and my efforts to change.
I attended a weekend retreat on the 17th & 18th of this month and it was so powerful and long overdue. During a Lectio Divina prayer session, the scent of Roses were so powerful, I knew our Blessed Mother was there with us. I have been away from our God for some time now and I am getting closer each and every day. Reclaim has giving me the ability to get myself out of the quicksand and onto firm ground and I am astonished that my life is completely turned around in such a short time especially after struggling for years in an effort to get to this place of freedom.
I want to let you know that I have never shared my struggle with anyone but I was first able to share here with you, then openly with my priest and then with my wife on this Thanksgiving Holiday and then in a parish group of men with the same struggles. The idea of telling anyone was a nightmare to me, especially my wife and it was my biggest fear. God has shown me that this fear keeps me enslaved and is not from Him, and I will find true freedom and peace in being honest with my wife especially. By sharing my struggle with her, I break the chain of secrecy and bondage and I increase my ability to succeed with the support of those around me. She has been so loving and kind and has asked to be a support person for me. This is such a huge step for me and my family.
I am taking it day by day and following where I am led and I believe I will be His instrument to help other men discover Reclaim as a source for their success. I need to complete my training and after finals this week I can get back into my training again. I know that there is much more truth to learn in this ministry and how I can be led by the spirit to bring more health to not only myself but my wife, children and others. Thank you for your support it has and is making a difference. Thank you for your prayers and God Bless You."